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Are you fighting forgiveness? When going through emotional crises everyone tells you how important it is to forgive. I don’t know about you but I always interpreted that to mean the other person or people involved. In reality the most important person you need to forgive is yourself…read on to see what Michael Beckwith (yes the guy from the Secret) has to say about this very crucial healing process.

Whenever I can I make my way to hear Dr. Michael’s inspirational sermons. I know without a shadow of a doubt when I’m able to show up it’s for a message I’m meant to hear. Today was no exception - the topic, A Dimensional Shift, was very powerful.

Loosely translated this was a sermon on:
Forgiveness
Surrender
Change

He spoke of his own recent experience meditating - he saw dark dimensions that alarmed him and then a booming voice said, I completely forgive myself, and miraculously the frightening visions vanished. Peace and a beautiful, invincible light, his pure essence, were all that was left. The simple act of forgiving himself created a dimensional shift.

Hearing this was mighty but when he had us start to sing and repeat the mantra, I forgive myself, I surrender, I am ready for change, I was shocked at the power of the words. There was a floodgate of emotion surfacing not only for me but for all those around me as well.

I found it to be proof that we all punish ourselves for our past experiences and unconsciously hold ourselves captive to this negative mind-set. Our transparent limiting beliefs are on autopilot and fuel our reactions to life creating more of what we don’t want.

Before I go any further I invite you to take a moment and repeat the same mantra for yourself and see what comes up:

I forgive myself for…. (Fill in the blank)
I surrender
I am ready for change

Work with it and see what comes up. If you feel no charge you are golden, but if you experience emotion there is some work that needs to be done to clear that feeling. It’s a wonderful and liberating exercise.Back to Dr. Michael - he passionately points out all forgiveness is self-forgiveness. It’s imperative to free yourself from the toxicity of what’s running through your mind. Don’t give your power away to any circumstance allowing it to determine your happiness. You have complete control of your life and happiness - Amen brother!!

Next you must surrender and this doesn’t mean to give up - it means surrender to the greatness that is in you so that you can move up to the next stage of evolution being the best version of you.

Upon doing this you are announcing to the universe that you are ready for change and like magic situations will start presenting in your life that confirm change is happening.

An interesting thing happened as I was walking out of this illuminating service - the gentleman who had been sitting to my left came up and asked if he could share a thought. He went on to say this was only the third time he had been to Agape - but something told him to attend today. He was very moved and said he wanted me to know what a profound message it was for him, and how much he needed to hear it… and then he left.This gentle man left me thinking that people all over the world are ready to forgive and surrender and change their paradigm. People all over the world are ready to share their enlightenments and connect on a heart level with complete strangers. People all over the world are waking up…are you?

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When you’ve seen beyond yourself, then you may find, peace of mind is waiting there. - George Harrison

When the door shuts on your marriage it can feel like a land mine going off in your head - every thought creating an uncomfortable explosion of fear: how am I going to make it on my own, how am I going to move forward, how am I going to support myself, how am I going to make the transition a positive and healthy one for my children, who will our friends rally to support, and most importantly, who am I?

Peace of mind is what you need to give you clear vision and courage for your future. This requires awareness and conscious actions as studies have indicated the average person experiences more than 100,000 repetitive thoughts per day, and most of them are not positive beliefs.

So it’s time to wave the white flag of surrender and gather some new peace-based strategies to end your warring mind.

If you follow any of the following 7 tips you will be well on your way to a peaceful existence:

1. Laughing - laughter is the sunshine of the soul. When you laugh you release endorphins bringing happiness and joy to your being. When you are happy and living in the moment you forget about your problems - giving your mind some welcome relief. Spend more time playing and having fun.

2. Support Groups -find support groups that don’t focus on rehashing the past but instead help you move forward with positive guidance and action steps for a happy, healthier you.

3. Connect with nature - a walk along the beach or in the mountains can calm the most crazed mind. It’s important to actually make connection with the earth - walking on concrete won’t give you the same benefit as walking on good ole’ Mother Earth.

4. Yoga - focusing on the breath and feeling your way into the poses will clear your thoughts and lessen their importance. Connecting with your inner source and strength will bring your mind, body and spirit into a very peaceful alignment.

5. Meditate - if you can sit quietly for ten minutes, concentrating on the silence that is your soul and repeat the mantra, I Am, you will be able to open to universal knowledge and gain insight that will help you resolve the issues that are bothering you.

6. Flotation tank - an enclosed chamber filled with a saturated solution of Epsom salts. The chamber is pitch-black and silent. Without any noise or light to distract , you feel detached, free, at peace. It takes you back to the womb- only you connecting with you. Complete bliss.

7. Music - could there be anything better than your all time favorite song to get you out of a sucky mood? Start movin’ your booty a bit and voila, instant euphoria.

Any of the above suggestions will help you shake off the evil twins, Gloom and Doom, and bring you to a brighter place. The key to overcoming sadness and fear is to know what works for you.

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Change your thoughts and you change your world

- Norman Vincent Peale

Divorce can be draining - would you like a tip that will give you more energy for your day?
Would you be interested in knowing a proven method for increasing your quality of life? Keep reading and learn the one simple technique that guarantees huge changes in your happiness.

Happiness comes from inner peace and joy - being in alignment with your purity and power. When you are going through divorce you may be kvetching to your friends about every terrible turn. Have you noticed how this leaves you feeling empty and fatigued?

Complaining is the biggest culprit of this energy zap. Most of us are not aware of just how much we complain. We may engage in this practice for sympathy or to avoid doing things that require us to stretch. Whatever the reason, it drains you and affects everyone around you.

Have you noticed how complaining becomes a competitive sport? One upmanship. It becomes a contest with each person trying to outdo the other about how bad things are for them. Do you want to win this? The victory comes with health issues and unhappiness.

The key to more energy involves playing a game - it’s called the Complaining Game. It involves wearing and moving jewelry for increased vitality. I’ve been playing for 3 months now and love it.

It’s a simple concept involving putting several elasticized beaded bracelets on one wrist - if you gossip, complain or criticize you move a bracelet to the other wrist. The goal is to go 21 days without moving a single bracelet. In so doing you will have formed a new habit, gain consciousness of your thoughts and words and become a happier, peppier person.

Can you do this? Sure you can - go to your nearest bead store and pick out your favorite color beads. String three to five bracelets to get you started. Enlist a buddy for support - someone who cares about you and wants you to succeed.

Now that you’re on board what are other things you talk about that tire you? Do you find criticisms, judgments, and negative opinions slipping from your sweet lips? Believe me, these comments are draining you; start paying attention to what comes out of your mouth and how it makes your body feel.

Complaining is a habit - take a moment to breathe and give yourself some space. Ask for guidance - that the words coming out of your mouth are constructive instead of destructive.

Remember when you gripe and complain it’s garbage out - what you will attract is more of the same, garbage in. When you cry to the universe you’ll just get more tears. The way out is to stop complaining. Express gratitude when good things happen. What you articulate you receive. What you think creates your daily reality. Results can be pleasant or painful. You reap what you sow.

Divorce can become a blame game - if you’ve been focusing on what is wrong it’s time to be a sample of positive change. Help create a complaint free world. Do it for your children. Do it for yourself. As you become a happier person you raise the overall happiness in the world. You create a network of expectation of a brighter future for all.

In just a short time you can have the life you’ve dreamed of, full of peace and joy and abundant energy.

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People are about as happy as they decide to be.
- Abraham Lincoln

You know when you’re in a situation and you just aren’t lovin’ it? You start to get agitated and you’re thinking to yourself. This is uncomfortable, this is boring, this isn’t what I was expecting, this isn’t how I want to spend my time, get me out of here, etc…
You may feel stuck but the solution is very simple - create a new reality.

Creating a new reality can mean anything from changing your attitude/perspective to changing your physical location. But one thing is for sure; change is required because the situation is not going to change unless you do.

When you find yourself unhappy with your environment you first have to take responsibility for creating it and then realize you have two choices:

Stay in it and stew
Create a new reality

After going thru a divorce there are many circumstances you may feel uncomfortable in now that you are on your own- dating again, going solo to a party, bridal showers, making new friends, teacher/parent conferences. But if you think about it, you’ll realize it’s nothing more than a mind-set. If you choose not to change your mind-set you’ll experience the following three things:

Anxiety or annoyance - sending out low energy vibration
Attracting more of the same making you feel even more miserable
Discomfort to those surrounding you. Yes your mood directly affects those around you.
You cannot hide your inner unrest - you may think you have the best poker face in town but your vibes are out there and they are finding an equivalent match and bringing you more of what you don’t want.

And really what’s the point of stewing - you will carry this energy into your next event of the day, or worse yet, to bed with you. If you do not ditch this energy you’ll wake up with it and start your day behind the eight ball and have another crappy day.

On the other hand, if you choose to create a new reality you will empower yourself and your life. I had this choice last New Year’s Eve. I had plans to go to my favorite spiritual center with some friends - I was so excited thinking it was going to be a great evening of visualization for the year ahead. When we got there it was a complete disappointment - there was no special spiritual service - the only thing going on was a food line set up like a soup kitchen in South Central with the floor being the only available option for seating.

My friends and I looked at each other and made a decision - we would not enter 2008 in this environment. So we left at 11:15 and drove to a beautiful hotel in Santa Monica making it just in time to watch the ball drop. We were given party hats and blowers and lovely glasses of champagne to toast in the New Year. There was upbeat music and lots of people laughing and having a good time. What a fun and festive atmosphere and WHAT A COMPLETE DIFFERENCE from where we had been just a few minutes earlier.

It was a valuable lesson to carry into the New Year. Whenever you are in a situation that doesn’t make you happy remind yourself that choices are always available to you. Make a conscious decision to choose what will make you most happy.

If you cannot physically leave make a decision to change your attitude - do the opposite of what you are feeling and you’ll be surprised how things will change - interject humor, show love, ask a question or give a compliment.

This may open a door to learn something you never knew before. Even if that something is the realization that you have the power to create your reality.

So what’s it going to be - stay in your mood and stew as a miserable martyr, or recreate as an empowered magician…who will YOU choose to be?

If you would like to change your reality I invite you to visit my website for successful strategies.

Tips and Guides: Visit http://www.SherriNickols.com for a free gift that will help you overcome the pain of divorce. Learn the secret to healing faster and finding inner peace, at last. Sherri Nickols - Spiritual Coach to divorced and separated individuals provides success strategies to build a beautiful new life.